After learning about my husband's emotional affair, some long standing routines were very difficult to return to...and I'm finally figuring it out. Yay! for me! Yay! for us! "Experiencing and coping with loss is an unintended consequence of infidelity, even with the couples who have committed to repair their relationship. Life just doesn't fit together... Continue Reading →
The Darwin chapter is so frustrating. When infidelity takes a seat in relationships, friends can be a wonderful...or, a hindering influence.
I have heard the sound of loathing, and I can't turn back. It snakes through my mind, pushing happiness aside. I know how it sounds to be hated. It has been a challenge to document the next part of my infidelity story. Even thinking about this part of my experience tightens my chest and sends... Continue Reading →
If we could only all be like penguins, life would be much simpler. When dysfunction feeds dysfunction, the result isn't function.
I've awoken happy. We survived the first year since DD. It's a Mary Tyler Moore, hat in the air moment.
Tomorrow is the first anniversary of my second DD. My first one was more than 27 years ago. I didn't take note of the date. I'm depressed. The flower in the image for this post is Lily of the Valley. Another name this flower is called is Our Lady's Tears. I thought it fitting as... Continue Reading →
It's two days until the first anniversary of my second DD. My first one was more than 27 years ago. I didn't take note of the date. I'm staying busy. I'm in a good place. I saw my psychologist yesterday. It was great timing. He has given me good homework assignments, as always. I can't... Continue Reading →
An honest reflection of where I'm at as the first anniversary of discovering my husband's secret approaches.
I have my husband's support. It means the world to me to have his encouragement to share our journey from infidelity to repair and healing.
One day he was spending time with her on a daily basis -- and then he wasn't. I often wonder about how lonely he must have been when he stepped away from the third wheel. I have a hard time understanding how he went from spending time with her every day, to never spending time... Continue Reading →