A year plus into affair recovery, the husband tries to be patient but keeps slipping into the statement, "We’ve already talked about this! When will this be over??" I know this is not unique to us. Dear Unfaithful, If your bank account was cleaned out by identity theft, when would you stop signing into online... Continue Reading →
Triggers...I've come to a place of acceptance. I can't prevent or halt a trigger that has arrived, but I've learned to embrace these moments. I have learned that my triggers and emotional flooding have a message for me. They have something for me to discover about myself , about the trauma of infidelity, and about... Continue Reading →
One day, and I can't remember what it was in response to, our lovely daughter tried to comfort her sister. She leaned in close and said very sincerely, "I was a baby. I cried once." This phrase has become a family favorite. It is the perfect example of sympathy. Sympathy can be described as seeing... Continue Reading →
"Thank you." These two words, when joined together, can right wrongs and heal wounds, and encourage intentional kindness to abound where little kindness existed before.
After learning about my husband's emotional affair, some long standing routines were very difficult to return to...and I'm finally figuring it out. Yay! for me! Yay! for us! "Experiencing and coping with loss is an unintended consequence of infidelity, even with the couples who have committed to repair their relationship. Life just doesn't fit together... Continue Reading →
I'm bringing this back for a re-post for cold, snowed-in day reading.
Self-care isn't selfish. It's the best way to be able to care for others. You gotta put your own oxygen mask on first.
"Lean into your triggers." This advice from our psychologist brings me peace.
I'm not the person I was a year ago (pre-DD), and she won't ever return. It's both good and bad.
